Joy’s Book Review

Joy typed this review of a book she’d read (”The Tinker’s Daughter” by Wendy Lawton). Btw, Fara is Arabic for “joy”.

“My name is Fara. I read about a book titled Mary Bunyan. It’s about Mary, a blind girl, who refuses help from her family and friends. She does not change until she realizes that she gets further and further from God, her creator.

Mary has a hard life. Before her father is taken to Bedford Gaol (Bedford Jail) her father asked Mary to care for the family.

She tires herself out by trying to care for her family.

I like this book because it’s very touching. ”

“Disappearance of Childhood”:Mini-review

“The Disappearance of Childhood” by Neil Postman. Vintage Press. 1982.

This is one pessimistic book. Like most pessimistic books, it’s also a thought provoking one.

I read Elkind’s “The Hurried Child” some years ago and it spurred me to make some decisions about the way we’d raise (and not raise) our kids. Writing from the vantage point of a child psychologist, Elkind argues that children are being pushed to grow up, and are suffering for it. He identified the media and the highly competitive trend in education and parenting as the primary culprits of this epidemic. By imposing our expectations on our children too soon, parents set our children on the road to burnout and to a lifelong angst for lost childhoods, lost innocence.

Postman’s tome, written in the early-80’s, looks at the same phenomenon of a lost childhood from the perspective of a social critic. In “Disappearance of Childhood”, he deconstructs the idea of childhood as a biological category and traces its development from the Classical World to America in the late 20th century,

Postman sees childhood as a social construct, with it roots (though not necessarily its origin, says he) in Athens, specifically in Athenian schools. The word for school then denoted “leisure” for it was based on the (noble) assumption that leisure time was used for thinking and learning. Schools functioned as ‘keepers’ of childhood in the sense that they reinforced the idea that children inhabited certain ‘worlds’ that were different from that of adults’. The concept of childhood was further developed by the Romans. The barbarian invasion and subsequent collapse of the Roman Empire plunged Europe into the Dark Ages, followed by the Middle Ages. With this gargantuan upheaval, childhood came to an end.

Postman identifies three phenomena in the Middle Ages that led to this decline: the loss of literacy as a culture, the loss of education (formal schooling with literacy as its focus) and the loss of shame. Education was usurped by apprenticeship or “on the job learning” and the emphasis on literacy was replaced by an oralist culture. Children and adults therefore shared the same symbolic worlds and the same physical spaces.

The advent of the printing press again changed the landscape of the continent by consolidating the centrality of literacy as a prerequisite for achieving the status of adulthood. The printing press therefore revived the idea of childhood as a distinct category. Learning became synonymous with “book learning” and knowledge, once openly accessible to children, was now invariably tied to literacy and hence, to the adult world.

Postman traces the development of childhood through the Enlightenment, going into some detail about the philosophical treatises of John Locke, Rousseau and Hume.

The second part of the book focuses solely on America from 1850-1950, with an emphasis on the 50’s.

As technology had , in the guise of the printing press, then ushered in a new age of information, knowledge and ideas of society in the Middle Ages, new communication inventions in the early-mid 20th century– “ the rotary press, the camera, the telephone, the phonograph, the movies, the radio, television”- signaled the beginning of the end of the concept of childhood. Postman pinpoints 1950 – the year when television assumed a central role in American homes- as the year when childhood became “obsolete”. Print culture was replaced by a “graphic revolution “(Postman citing Boorstin) of images and icons.

Postman embarks on a persuasive and lengthy discourse on how, in this ongoing revolution of images, information is undifferentiated, chaotic, depersonalized and decontextualized. The effects of this “free-flow” of information creates similar conditions that precipitated the obliteration of childhood in the Middle Ages: the loss of literacy as central to education, the usurping of literacy by other means of communication –whether oral or visual, and the loss of shame that is caused by the blurring of distinctions between the worlds of the child and the adult.

As in his other books, Postman exposes the role of technology in reconfiguring the way we think about relationships, our identities and the way things should function in society.

While Postman offers his observations, he extends no promising cure for the demise of childhood. This book was written in the early-80’s. Now in the infancy of the 21st century, the tome reads almost like a history book of what has taken place. This book, as I said earlier, is a pessimistic one.

I disagree with some of Postman’s opinions about childhood. Postman authoritatively claims that childhood is a social construct, in the same way, I suspect, that gender is viewed purely as a social construct. If childhood was purely a social construct, then why defend it? A social construct rests on principles of convenience- of its use to the society which builds it, shapes it and redefines it. A social construct is bereft of absolute values and is ever-shifting with the trends and mores of society. Based on this, a social construct cannot be defended purely on the grounds of absolute values. This makes the book therefore, merely a record of observations. Perhaps that is what makes Postman’s book so hopeless in its outlook when compared to Dr. Elkind’s “The Hurried Child”. While he notes the circumstances (and the great ogre-culprit TECHNOLOGY) that propel the disappearance of childhood, he falls short in making a case for preserving it.

This is less a book on parenting and the importance of childhood than a persuasive argument against letting technology have a free hand in shaping society. It is therefore a book that must be read because it makes us more aware about the power that we unwittingly absolve to others within the confines of our homes, in deciding the courses of family, children’s upbringing and thinking.

Talking books

I have been looking for audio books for our family. Well, maybe not Abel who think they are cure-alls for insomnia. I love audio books -ones that are well read, with expression and no drawl- and prefer them to movies. I like having that space to conjure images up myself.

I trawled several pages of the web and came up with this list of audio books, free and not-free:

Free audio books
www.storynory.com ( for kids, excellent, good English used)
www.librivox ( for everyone, but goodness, you really have to ferret out the good ones. Some of the readings put me to sleep. While others, like one of Beatrix Potter’s “The tailor of Gloucester” , are good.)
www.freeclassicaudiobooks.com ( monotonous, the scene here seems to be dominated by one reader.)
www. booksshouldbefree.com ( the ones here are actually librivox recordings.)

Not-free audio books
www.blackstone.com ( expensive, looks interesting)
www.talking-book-store-com (excellent recordings, excellent readings, moderately priced)
www.audible.com ( excellent recordings, a range of prices )
www.audiobookscorner.com (good , a range of prices )

Now, to sit back , relax and let the words flow over me…hah, easier said than done with two lively kids!

Coloured rice

Here is an idea for making colored rice.
1.Mix quarter cup of water and several drops of food coloring in a jar.
2. Add the rice in.
3.Stir the mixture.
4. Let the rice sit for 5 minutes.
5. Then, pour out extra water with a sieve.
6. Spread rice out to dry on a newspaper.
7. Repeat the steps for each colour.

We’ll be doing this activity this week as we learn about how people in the past and in different cultures dye fabric and make paint.

Last month we made Sumerian clay tablets from dough. The four of us trudged to the pond near nearby where there are reeds a plenty. We pulled some reeds, cut them and the kids did some cuneiform writing on the tablets. Then we baked them in the oven.

Co-oping for homeschool

I am so excited! A few moms and I started a homeschool co-op some weeks ago. We’ve had three meetings so far and things look really grand!

There are about 10 kids in all, ranging from 3 to 13. We, mum, take turns to run each session, doing two- three subjects per session. We do a local foreign language each time we meet. The mom who is taking this session has been experimenting with various learning activities, from drills to songs. Another one does History and Science, another mom does Crafts and I do Geography and Books.

Geography and Books.. come to think of it, I don’t know why I came up with that.Hmm…

Well, it’s my turn next week and I’ve assigned everyone to draw maps of imaginary lands. Each map should include a cartouche ( something akin to a decorated panel containing the title of the map), a key, details concerning terrain and ta daaah…invented languages ( runes. cuneiform.etc). The kids have to present their maps , dressed up in the native clothes of these lands and cook up some adventure. I’m thinking of gallant rescues ( by princesses of course!), bungling crooks and adventure. My kids are thinking of princesses and clothes and swordfights and puppies…Nevermind, we’ll manage somehow…

Oh dear me, Joy has discovered something gooey on the dinner table and it has a greenish-grey hue and it’s the consistency of ( what kids?!)oh, glue. Yikes.

Party Games

We’re holding a small birthday party for Joy tomorrow. There’ll be about 8 kids and 10 adults. I don’t have a clue as to what to do with the adults but I’ve prepared some party games for the kids. Hopefully everyone will have a ball, the adults with the food and chit-chat and the kids with everything else.

Some party games we will be having:
1. Fox and chicken: One child volunteers ( or is appointed) to be the wily Fox. One child becomes the leader- the mother hen. Everyone else is a chick and queues up – holding the waist of the child in front- behind the mother hen. The Fox has to try to tag a chick. The mother hen has to protect her brood. Once a chick is tagged, the chick becomes the Fox’s dinner and has to stand in a designated corner. The Fox has to ‘tag’ the other chicks, who by this time , should be screaming the roost down. This sound like one mean game, but there is a BRIGHT side to it! All is not lost when a chick gets tagged. The chick can actually rejoin the brood IF another chick ( one still in the ‘line’) manages to free him from the fox by touching him.

2. When the sea comes in: I got this game from a book of party games. All the kids form a circle around one child in the middle. The child in the middle is the ‘sea’. When she says , “The sea is calm”, the children walk , clockwise, calmly around her. When she says, “ The sea is stormy”, the kids run madly, clockwise, around her. When she says , “ The winds are blowing wildly”, the children wave their hands and run at top speed , clockwise , round her. I think you get the meaning. BUT when she says, “The sea is coming in !” All the children must run to the sides of the room ( if you are playing indoors) , and the sea must try to ‘tag’ a child. The one who gets tagged becomes part of the sea.

3. Passing the parcel : Need I explain ?

4. Brown and black bear: I got this game from the same party game book. One child is a brown bear, the rest are (ta daaa!) black bears. When the music plays, all these cute bears move around the room ( Please remind your children not to bite anyone. The last time I was at a friend’s house , a boy, imitating a dog, plunged his pearly whites into my jeans. ). When the music stops, all the black bears will have to flee from the rampaging brown bear. They must climb up their trees , which are actually chairs. The brown bear must try to tag a black bear before he manages to reach his tree.

Tomorrow should be loads of fun. I love those games when the kids get wet and messy such throwing water-filled balloons. But I think I don’t think I can cope with all that cleaning up right now ! I hope the food’s okay too; I’m much better at games than food prep ( thank God for bakeries and the confectioner’s !)